Kyle MacDonald: The Kiwi Way is Bad For Our Mental Health
When we hear over and over again our sadness is wrong, it doesn't make the sadness go away.
Most people who experience depression believe themselves to be "bad". Maybe not all the time, but certainly when they're depressed. For some it is so pervasive they feel themselves to be evil, bad to the core, even that others would be better off without them.
People often think of depression as sadness that can't be shaken, misery that never ends. But depression is much more than just an emotion, even though it can look like sadness, it is much more complicated than that.
So how does "I'm sad" become "I'm bad"?
Kyle MacDonald: What Becomes of the Broken Hearted?
Regardless of who we are, we all know deep emotional pain. That heart-rending pain that feels like your guts are being ripped out. Heartbreak, rejection, bereft, alone.
Losing love, the pain of being abused or left by others stays with us. But for most of us it is hopefully a very occasional experience.
You might have only felt it once or twice before, enough to know what heartbreak feels like, infrequently enough to consider your future to likely be free of such pain and loss.
Kyle MacDonald: What Causes Someone to Become a Hoarder?
I have a pocket watch that was my great grandfather's. It's not particularly valuable, but it means a lot to me. I never use it, it just sits on a shelf. But, like a small number of things I own, its value is sentimental. It's an heirloom: an inanimate object that has been imbued with an emotional value.
I have a connection to it that is more like a relationship.
Most people have one or two items like this, on a shelf, or in a box somewhere. Of course some people have many, many more.
Kyle MacDonald: Why 'Snowflake' Millennials is a Term of Abuse
"Are millennials really more sensitive?"
For the most part, I'm not a fan of generalisations. It's just a short skip and a jump from there to a stereotype, and it's evil cousin, prejudice.
But we just can't seem to help ourselves when it comes to age, and generations.
Gen "X", baby boomers, millennials: we all know our place. And on a weekly basis on one website or another we get told that millennials, well they're a bit special aren't they?
Kyle MacDonald: Why you Shouldn't Always Live by the Rules
"I got told I'm a very black-and-white thinker. What does this mean?"
Life is full of rules. Some of them are useful, like driving on the correct side of the road. Others: less so.
Therapists distinguish between the "laws" we must live by, like which side of the road to drive on, and the beliefs we learn, from our family culture and experiences.
Some types of therapy really zero in on these beliefs, because they shape so much of our experience.
Kyle MacDonald: People Pleasing Can be Detrimental to Your Health
"What does it mean if I'm a "people pleaser"? Is it a bad thing?
It's one of those strange ideas in the self-help books isn't it? Who wouldn't want to please people, and how could that be a bad thing?
What we normally mean when we talk about some one being a "people pleaser" is someone who tends to put others needs, wants, desires ahead of their own. And there's the rub.
Suicidal thoughts: Sylvia Huitson has 'been there, done that got the T-shirt'
Sylvia was 22 when she got into an abusive relationship that almost led her to the brink of suicide, now 62 the New Plymouth woman looks back at that relationship in order to help others that are suffering.
Her original plan was to be an accountant. Instead, she turned to counselling, and has been self-employed for 10 years.
"This gives me the most pleasure because it's a hugely rewarding job. People feel better going out than when they come in."
Mike King Blocked From Speaking at South Canterbury School
Mental health crusader Mike King believes a "misinformed" fear-mongering campaign is to blame for several high schools withdrawing an invitation for him to speak to students.
Ahead of his keynote speech to the NZ First party conference on Sunday morning, King was invited to speak at eight schools in the South Canterbury region on self-esteem and keeping their "inner critic" in check.
However, Opihi College in Temuka, then retracted the invitation. They told King he was no longer welcome, after being contacted by South Canterbury District Health Board (SCDHB) suicide prevention coordinator Professor Annette Beautrais.
Student's mental health plan approved by Government
The loss of five friends to suicide has prompted one student to develop a programme to save the lives of his peers.
Now he's not only managed to get the Government on board to fund it - he's brought about a reconciliation between mental health campaigner Mike King and the Minister of Health.
Four years ago, Ezekiel Raui was sitting in a school hall listening to Mr King's first ever mental health seminar. Having lost five friends in recent months, it prompted him to come up with a plan of his own.
Julia Gillard Opens up About Mental Health
The former Prime Minister has shared her own experiences with mental health as she is appointed the chair of Beyond Blue
Former Australian Prime Minister Julia Gillard has opened up about her own struggle with mental health during her political career, as she steps into the role of the Beyond Blue chair.
Ms Gillard says that as Chair, she is hoping to work with Beyond Blue to help build resilience as part of charting a new course in the way that mental health is approached, with a particular focus on children. “We need to start this work with our kids, because resilient children become resilient adults,” she said.